THE SHOCKING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN ..

You've probably noticed that men are much more likely to be risk-takers when it comes to dating. Men are going to consider dating from a large pool of women. They are going to be the ones to show courage to approach women and ask for their phone numbers. women are a lot more risk-averse. They are only going to accept dates from a small pool of men. They are going to say no more often than they say yes and they are never going to be the ones to approach a man and initiate that romantic interaction. When it comes to dating and relationships, men and women are completely different. Men are more adventurous and women are more reserved. Of cos, there are going to be expectations, this isn't black or white. But, on the whole, you've probably noticed in your own life that men are inclined to be risk-takers and women are more risk-averse. The men in a relationship want to basically go exploring. He wants to get out into the world.

Whereas the woman wants to stay in a hotel, or fancy town to go exploring the local shops and cafés. The man wants to experiment with sexual variety, different positions, and different people. Whereas the woman wants to set a more gentle phase, familiar monogamy. When they've got children, the man is not likely to take a more hands-off approach, 'let the children figure it out, make their own mistakes. Whereas the woman is going to be more hands-on in her approach. Lots of planning and preparation. Like I said, there are exceptions to this, particularly in the modern age, where we have so many masculine women and feminine men. But when you think of the arch-type;- the traditionally masculine man, he is adventurous, he is open to taking risks. 

The traditionally feminine woman is more reserved, more sensible, and risk-averse. The reason for this is that, deep down, men and women are motivated by two very different things. You need to be aware that as a man, what motivates you, and what causes you to get inspired to take action is not the same as what motivates a woman.

A primal force that moves her through life, that keeps her motivated is different from what you're experiencing. If you don't understand that a woman's motivation is completely different from yours, then her behavior is not going to make any sense. The simplest explanation is this:

Men are driven by a desire for freedom. Whereas women are driven by a desire for security.

It might sound simple but the difference between those two motivations are massive. 

As a man, imagine living your life inside a routine, when you wake up, you know exactly where you're meant to be going, who you're going to be meeting, and what's expected of you. That kind of overbearing structure feels restrictive. It's like there is thus a harsh boundary around you, this unnecessary limitation around your choices. Of cos, a bit of structure and routine is also fine, but on the whole, as a man, you want to wake up 

1. To possibilities

2. To adventure

3. You want the freedom to follow your Passions

4. You want to have the ability to just start new projects if the mood strikes you right without being locked into pre-existing commitments. That's you though, that's your masculinity.

As a woman, too much choice, and too much freedom is frightening. With too many decisions to make, women get overwhelmed. The idea of having structure and routine doesn't seem restrictive to women. It feels comfortable, it feels safe,.

I want you to picture a wedding. You've got a bride and a groom standing across from each other, holding hands. Bow they're both getting married, they're both doing the same thing. But if you go inside the man's head.

"He's thinking, Oh my goodness what am I doing? Am I really making this commitment? I've now restricted my choices for the rest of my life. No more variety, no more fun. Just this one girl! What's going on?

But the woman isn't panicked, NO!

" She's thinking, YESSS!!!!!!! finally, commitment! monogamy, safety, familiarity, comfort........ I can finally relax"!

So here's why we've got the difference:

You see both genders want more of what they don't have - with masculinity comes order, structure, and logic. Imagine a world that was Everything100% masculine.  would be in perfect geometry. It would be ultra rational. It would be a nightmare, to be honest.

You see, as men, we are very familiar with masculinity, that's how our mind works. Everything's logical and structured. We spend so much time with masculinity that we get sick of it. We want to get out of our own heads. We wonto escape from this endless barrage of masculinity and so we seek adventure. We want to dance with chaos, we want to battle against the unknown. We want to go out into nature and experience the wild forests, and huge mountains. We want to do something that we've never done before. We want to take risks, we want to lean into chaos because chaos is not our natural state. You see through that for women, it's completely the opposite. If masculinity is order then femininity is chaos. 

There's nothing defined, there's nothing structured, and there's a whirling mass of chaotic energy. Too much order bores men, too much chaos frightens women. So what does a woman do??

She leans into masculinity, she makes sure the house is completely tidy and made up and everything is perfectly in its place. Women engage in unfamiliar activities. They like spending time with friends that they've known for a long time and; whom they are familiar with. They like doing things that they've done before. Crazy risk-taking and adventures might be exciting for men but it is stressful for women. 

This is duality. This is the "Ying-Yang". 

Men are fiery hot and they want to go swimming in cool water. Whereas women are icy and cold and they want to warm themselves by a fire. Both genders want more of what they don't have.

Men seeking chaos, women seeking order. So when you're dating a woman, don't make the mistake of thinking that what motivates you is the same as what motivates her, it's not.

As a man you want freedom but as a woman, she wants security.

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