When It Comes To Love, We're All a Little Crazy - Here Is How

Well, love is never simple, and one of the biggest risks is believing that love is easy or that it comes effortlessly to you. It's incredible how many different aspects of life we train for, like, how to fly a plane, operate a business, do surgery, etc. We learn everything, but when it comes to love, we just let people pretend that they are already skilled at it. It's amazing!

You would think I was joking if I told you that I was going to fly an aeroplane to New York without ever having taken a flight lesson or trained as a pilot. (shey u dey whine me niiii)

But despite this, we observe individuals from all walks of life falling in love, beginning relationships, and getting married without having the foggiest clue of what they are doing.

I think that love is more of a talent than a feeling, and that we should practice love methodically throughout our lives. This is pretty unromantic, I know. You would think that it sounds awful if I told you, "Don't merely fall in love, go to a school to learn love". That's because we have such a romanticized conception of love. That's why you hear people say, " Oh I just want to feel with my heart."

Our prospects of having good love lives are severely hampered by love tales in literature and movies. As a guide for how we should love, the history of romantic literature in Western Europe is disastrous. Consider Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet, a crazy love tale between a 16-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl that ends in a double suicide. We exclaim, "Oh, it's so lovely! but it's not, It's insane. These two people need to be kept and provided counselling sessions at a psychiatrist's office in my opinion.

We can't begin to love effectively until we let go of our romantic ideals. The amazing thing is that we all have a really specific type of person that we adore, and most of the time we don't even know why we have this type. You may hear individuals say that

"I met this person at an event and it simply had to be them,"

When you introduce them to someone else, they react negatively since the new person is not their type and say,

"Oh no, I couldn't love them, there's something not right about them."

Sigmund Freud's psychoanalytic viewpoint suggests that childhood influences the persons we choose to love. It's not surprising that many lovers refer to each other as "baby" because we all learn about love when we're young and, as adults, we remember those feelings. Additionally, the people we end up falling in love with often have characteristics that are similar to those of the people we first loved when we were kids.

This explains why we frequently make poor decisions because sometimes as children, the relationships we had with the people we loved were not perfect; For example, perhaps our mother was a little depressed or our father was always gone or had a terrible temper, and then as adults, we start falling in love with people who are always gone, have terrible tempers, or are even a little depressed.

Our friends have all questioned us, "Why are you with these people?" Why do you not have the ideal partner? They don't look right, we respond. Naturally, though, we are still following the first love road plan that we developed as children.

People will occasionally say things like, "I really appreciate the way you are; you remind me a little of my mother." or "You are just as dependable as my father"

We now understand that there are very strong reasons why we fall in love with people who make us think of the positive traits of our parents and the people we knew when we were younger.

For many people, falling in love is not just about experiencing happiness; it's also about encountering familiar suffering. This explains why we see people with types who break up seven relationships and then return to someone who is essentially the same type of person over and over again, leaving everyone puzzled and asking questions like, "Why are they always with people who have no time for them, bully them, cheat on them, or who are unreliable?"

Therefore, one of the first things we must do when we fall in love is to try to comprehend what is on our love map and why we love the individuals we do.

When it comes to love, we're all a little insane. The notion that we are all flawless, angelic beings gathering over dinner with a candle and everything being excellent is false. Every single one of us carries around ten biographies' worth of emotional baggage from the past.

When two individuals meet for dinner, they are more than simply the two of them; they are also everything that has happened to them in the past. You must know yourself well enough to tell your partner who you are. Not just whether you play Candy Crush, whether you like C. Ronaldo (Siuuu), or what genre of music you like, but who you really are emotional. Because we're all a little bit difficult, the more we know about ourselves, the better we can prepare the people we care about for what it will be like to be with us.

Here's what I think will be fantastic on a first date? it would be nice to tell your partner, "Look, I'm a little crazy like so and so. How about you? and they would acknowledge, "Yeah, I'm a little crazy like this and this too". Although everyone would otherwise declare, "I'm perfect. But conversations like this may lead to an honest, intelligent, and gracious reveal of who each of us really is.

Therefore, we don't need our lovers to be flawless; instead, we need them to be able to calmly and in good time tell us about the areas in which they are flawed before they cause us too much harm. This is one of the great abilities of love.

I really believe that you may like, sincerely respect, and be incredibly excited about someone but never think of them as an angel. For a good reason, angels exist in the skies.

If I run into a buddy who claims that I've recently started dating the perfect person. The alarm light turns on instantly. No! You still don't know them well enough. Only those we don't know can ever come to mind as being ideal or perfect. When you see someone in line at the grocery store, at the bus stop, or on your street, you may think to yourself, "Oh they look so beautiful they'd be wonderful," but you don't know them. Everyone is challenging once you get to know them, I repeat everyone is a bit of a nightmare when you get to know them really well. They may be challenging in this manner or challenging in that one. But they're also incredibly gorgeous and cute; they're like the whole deal.

We must be nice, kind and gracious to our partners, and the finest form of kindness is based on the understanding that we are all fallible human beings and that our partners are not flawless. 

Only then can we begin to love the right way.